The Effect of Violence on Telivision

What has our society come to these days? Everywhere we look, violence is present; in the streets, back alleys, school, and even at home. Even if one might be a pacifist, violence will seep its way into our homes through the television. Some children that see violence on television are pulled into its harmful deceptions of problem solving.  

Scientists have tried to explain why children are so amused by a big glowing box and the action that takes place within it. Research shows that television is a major source of violence for children. This research shows us that violence appeals to every audience, including children.  

The effects have been seen in a number of cases. One example, from Alabama, was when a nine-year-old boy received a bad report card from his teacher. He suggested to one of his friends that he send the teacher poisoned candy as revenge. He had seen the same scenario on television the night before. In California, a 7 year old boy sprinkled ground-up glass into the lamb stew the family was to eat for dinner. When asked why he did it he replied that he wanted to see if the results would be the same in real life as they were on television. Some people might not accept a child’s diversion of blame, but it must be pointed out that all of children claimed to have seen a similar act on television. We should not hold television directly responsible for these acts, but understand that it is television that plants a violent seed in the minds of these children. 

Some psychologists and psychiatrists feel that continued exposure to such violence might unnaturally speed up the impact of the adult world on the child. This can force the child into a kind of premature maturity. As the child matures into an adult, he can become bewildered, have a greater distrust towards others, a superficial approach to adult problems, and even an unwillingness to become an adult. 

Others see television as an unhealthy imposition into a child’s learning process, substituting easy pictures for the discipline of reading and concentrating and transforming the young viewer into a hypnotized non-thinker.  As you can see, television violence can disrupt a child’s learning and thinking ability, which will cause life long problems. 

The television violence can cause actual violence in a number of ways. As explained above, after viewing television violence the world becomes bland in comparison. The child needs to create violence to keep himself satisfied. 

Another reason why television violence causes violence in children is apparent in the big cities. Aggressive behavior was more acceptable in the city, where a child’s popularity rating with classmates was not hampered by his or her aggression. 

Scientists have all found one thing in common; violence in the media does have an effect on its viewers. Such results have been obtained in a survey of London school children in 1975. Greensberg found a significant relationship between violence viewing and aggression, Children who had just seen commercial violence accepted much higher levels of aggression than other children. The results were published in a report. A Surgeon General’s report found some preliminary indications of a casual relationship between television viewing and aggressive behavior in children. 

In other research among children it was discovered that aggression, academic problems, unpopularity with peers and violence feed off each other. This promotes violent behavior in the children. The child watches violence which causes aggression. The combination of aggression and continued television viewing lead to poor academic standings. 

In yet another piece of research children who watch a lot of violent television were compared to children who don’t. The results were that the children who watched more violent television were more likely to agree that it’s okay to hit someone if you’re mad at them for a good reason. The other group learned that problems can be solved passively, through discussion and authority.

Perhaps the most important way to prevent children from watching television violence is to stop it where it starts. The parents should step in and turn the set off when a violent program comes on. The parents are the child’s role models from which he learns. If he can learn at an early age that violence on television is appalling, then he can turn the set off for himself when he is older. Education should start in the home. 

In conclusion, violence on television proves to be a root of violence in not only in America but all around the world. There are many examples and proven research that shows how violence viewed on television uproots all over our country. There will never be a law passed, or a set end to this problem.

Arrange marriage Vs. Love marriage

Today one thought was going through my mind that whether I should do arrange marriage or love marriage and same will be going in minds of all youngster who are at this stage of getting marriage sooner or later. I always have been inspired by my family to do arrange marriage, but I think that it is not so easy to accept what your family say on this matter of your life. We all would have think about the pros and cons of these types of marriage, I today have find out some facts and also some data which will help you to solve your confusion regarding the type of marriage you should do.

The usual opinion is that arranged marriages happen only in the east but this was not always so arranged marriages were happening even in Victorian Europe. With the industrial revolution and the end of the 2 world wars people's attitudes and perceptions started changing as women started to join the workforce and they started to demand for their rights. In England for example most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages up until King George V the present Queen Elizabeth's father broke tradition by marrying a commoner. Besides popular love lore like Soni Mahiwal, India always had a long tradition of arranged marriages. With the advent of the British, and the subsequent introduction of British education system more Indians got educated. These educated Indians in turn started to send their children to school and tried to educate their wives at home. The cause of women's education and rights were also very much espoused by our social reformers. In spite of this the institution of arranged marriage persisted. Education and exposure to the media, started to make people to think and realize they need not be bound by tradition and they can choose their own marital partners without having to rely on parents, matchmakers, relatives or having to consult astrologers. This gave rise to love marriages. Currently in our country we have arranged as well as love marriages taking place. 

It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages where the girl/boy is chosen by the parents so there is pressure to conform to parental expectations like producing a male heir, taking part in family rituals and traditions, putting up with sisters-in-laws, contributing to family expenses etc. One of the usual questions against an arranged marriage is that how can you marry somebody you don't know. Knowing somebody before marriage allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. This way they are better adjusted in the marriage when they finally take their wedding vows.

Not all love marriages have happy endings. Sometimes discord arises even in love marriages. In the west girls who are fat find it difficult to find suitable dates. There is pressure on the women to conform to conventional male ideas of beauty where women have to be tall and slim with hourglass figures. These kinds of attitudes and perspectives have not only created the kinds of conditions which I described above but are also responsible for women suffering a lot of pain and rejection. Beauty contests and the popular Barbie doll with its model of a doll with supermodel's figure have been accused of reinforcing this mindset. These kinds of pressures would just increase as society gets more modern and technology advances. Then, would women who refuse to conform get left behind? This made me wonder for a moment that maybe society should switch back to arranged marriages from love marriages since this pursuit for perfection in beauty would increase as society changes. On the positive side all this has also led to the feminist movements in the west. Women have come out of the closet refusing to be mere sexual objects pandering to male ideas of beauty.

Coming to arranged marriages, they offer more protection, security to the women. There is not much pressure on the women to look like models. Parents employ maturity and wise judgment when choosing suitable spouses for their children. Sometimes it helps to rely on another person's opinion and experience when selecting one's partner especially when the people marrying are young and need guidance and advice in marrying a suitable person.

This does not mean arranged marriages are the ideal sort of marriages. Having an arranged does not mean that the married couple remains happily ever after or that there is harmony in the relationship. Women have been known to stay on in abusive relationships for the sake of family pride, respect in society etc. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of pressure to be fair-skinned and beautiful. In India the evil of dowry, caste and community issues and the concept of matching horoscopes, sometimes taken to its extreme levels have contributed much to the argument against arranged marriages.

It becomes difficult therefore to predict the ideal sort of marriage. So ultimately it is up to the individual to decide whether he wants to have a love or an arranged marriage after all it is a question of being happy in love.   

HAPPY DAYS

Today I am writing this post for all college once who are about to complete their studies. While going through this post you will think I am philosopher but today what I am writing I am on the same stage. I watched the movie HAPPY DAYS today a movie in telegu based on an engineering college.

These are few learning's from this movie:-

We in college days make many friends and also have different thinking upon different things. We ever find people in life who try to tell the truth to us but in one way or other we neglect them. What in ours opinion may be correct but when time will go by then we will realize what was said to us. We should help our friend even he had done something which hurts you because we don't the situation behind his mistake.

We also don't respect our teachers, but they are the one who act as a glow of light when we are in darkness.

We should really want to apologize every teacher for the mistakes we had made whether intentionally or non-intentionally. Teachers are there to help us in deciding our destiny, they are the gift of god to guide the way which reaches to our goal.

We should respect every person whom we met in life as we do not know who will help us in getting things right when we are on wrong track. We should have a passion do something even to love someone and should convey that feeling is the most important part, even you fail you will never say that "if i would have done this may be somewhere else".

We are provided with all facilities think about a student who runs 20km daily to complete his schooling. He doesn't have money to spend upon but want to something miracle in his life as "Pandu" in the movie. He when arrived to college he did not know single word in English but he cracks the interview like a master in English.

Lastly its the happy days for all college students enjoys them to the most, learn new creative things and respect every person, because we don't want us to have the following question in life:-

1. What did I learn?

2. What did I achieve?

3. I'm in just as much confusion as when I joined college?

Few heart touching lines.....

Every batch have some people who come to college unable to leave BUT they leave eventually and I feel, we should share these moment with you, these are the most happy days of your life but also the beginning of most purposeful days.

THE GREAT SAYING

We all have listen about share market and investment. Today I studied about the father of investment who is known as Oracle of Omaha.  He is an American Investor, businessman and philanthropist. I am talking about Mr. Warren Buffet who is a self made man. He is the second richest man in the United States even after donating $62 billion.  

Here are some sayings or learning from life of Mr. Warren Buffet:-

Never ask a barber if you need a haircut

In looking for some one to hire, you look for three qualities : Integrity, intelligence and energy. But the most important is integrity because if they don’t have that, the other two qualities are going to kill you

He said investments in tobacco are fraught with questions that relate to societal attitudes and those of the present administration. I would not like to have a significant percentage of my net worth invested in tobacco businesses. The economy of the business may be fine, but that doesn't mean it has a bright future.

  

It is easier to stay out of trouble than it is to get out of trouble

You should invest your money in a business that even a fool can run, because someday a fool will!

A LEADER SHOULD KNOW HOW TO MANAGE FAILURE

We all have studied in the management classes that a leader is one who lead others to follow him/her and many definition have given by many Management Guru's. I was reading a interview at the midnight of India's Former President Mr. APJ Abdul kalam. He in this interview has given one of the best example of leader.

He in this interview was asked could you give an example, from your experience, of how leaders should manage failure. He shared his work experience of year 1973 when he was a Project Director of India's satellite launch vehicle program. The goal assign to his team was to put Rohini satellite into orbit by 1980.

He told by Aug 1979 we thought that we were ready and I decided to control center for the launch. 4 min before launch, the computer began to checklist the items. 1 min later, computer put the program on hold; display showed that some components were not in order I had 4-5 experts with me-told me not to worry and launch through manual mode. I did the same, in first stage everything worked fine. In second stage, a problem developed. Instead of satellite going into orbit, the whole rocket system plunged into Way of Bengal. It was a big failure.

That day, the Chairman of ISRO Prof. Satish Dhawan called a press conference for the launch at Sriharikota(A.P.). Prof Dhawan, the leader of organisation, took the responsibility for the failure. He also assured media in another year the team would definitely succeed. As a Project director that was my failure-but he took the responsibility.

In July 1980, we tried the launch again and we succeeded. The whole nation was Jubilant. Again, there was a press conference Prof. Dhawan called me aside and told me, "You conduct the press conference today".

Reading of interview i have learned the best management lesson, I have learned something that did not come to me reading a book that WHEN FAILURE OCCURS THE LEADER OWNED THAT FAILURE,. WHEN SUCCESS CAME, HE GAVE IT TO HIS TEAM.